Where I am at…

Posted Friday, May 19th, 2017. Filed Under Voices of wisdom | Leave a Comment

I have been writing a blog since 2009 and it has been rewarding. While I have shifted my focus from women empowerment to expand and include empowerment at all levels, I came to realize that the path to empowerment is the same whether you are a person, company or country.

I am not sure where I want to take this blog as there has been so much learning, growing, and challenging of myself. Pivoting seems to be the word of the day for me. I want to stay open, fluid, and adaptive as I feel that with all of the upheaval in the world it really is more about shaking out what we don’t want only to bring in or keep what we do want.

I am turning 50 this year and one realization and agreement I made with myself is that I will no longer compromise my value, worth, or dreams. I know I have been my own stumbling block. It is time to shine and step out. More importantly for me is to be 100% true to myself. I spent the first 50 years of my life in a great learning curve and at times pleasing others instead of following my truth. I look at others in my life and family who do what is best for them, and I too will do so. That doesn’t mean that family and friends will not be important, as they will. What is does mean is that I will make decisions that I feel and believe are best for me and my family.

With this decision, right now the blog seems right and I will continue to find topics that I believe are important and share with you. Part of what is right is beginning to really brand
2bempowered Inc. I have put it in the shadows of many other people and now is the time to step out and be proud of the impactful work that I do and am working on.

I am excited for the next 50 years. I already see that I have broken cycles and patterns that I have been working on breaking. I am using affirmations and visualizations to see the life I am creating and do want.

It is possible. The one thing I try and do with my blog is to challenge each and every one of you to be better, do better and feel better about yourself. One of my big aha moments came the other day when I realized that I still hold limiting beliefs that I must rid of. It was a belief that in my work I am alone. The truth is I am not alone. In fact, rather than go to worry and fear I shifted the thought to one of gratitude. I am grateful for all of the people in my life right now that are working with me (including my angels), who want me to succeed and encourage me to keep going and more importantly are helping me on my path to succeed.

I want to sign off on this note. You are never alone and if you allow others to come into your lives and let them help where needed, you will see how things will proceed. You do need to be discerning and trust your inner guidance – if you feel someone is trying to take advantage of you, then likely it is true. But before you decide this ask yourself one question: Am I coming from ego or truth? I find that when things flow, and doors open and the work unfolds or situation unfold, then it is often right and true. You need to trust your heart and the feeling around it… not necessarily your head. It is your head and ego that will often distract you or move you away from what is right for you.

In Canada we are celebrating Victoria Day and it is a long weekend! I wish everyone a wonderful weekend. Relax, enjoy and laugh!

All my love,

Sandra

What’s going on?

Posted Friday, May 12th, 2017. Filed Under Voices of wisdom | Leave a Comment

I don’t know if it’s age and my hormones changing or the energy or both but I have to tell you sometimes I don’t know if I’m coming or going; I feel high, then low. Thank goodness I am not alone. I want to share a video that was sent to me from a friend. For those who are highly sensitive beings, or light workers as often referred to, I want you to know there is nothing wrong with you. After I watched this video I felt so much better about things and particularly myself. I sometimes question my purpose on this earth and then am quietly (sometimes loudly) reminded. And then I say to myself, “This too shall pass” and “it’s all good”. The best thing for me has been shedding old values/beliefs that no longer serve me.

Please watch. I want to wish everyone a great weekend.

From my friend David:

This is bang on Sandra…enjoy

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1G6NoAcV198

Cheers/David

What is perfect anyway?

Posted Friday, May 5th, 2017. Filed Under Voices of wisdom | Leave a Comment

All my best plans have gone by the wayside. When I hold the “perfect” vision in my mind of how something SHOULD be or look like or even feel like I am very often disappointed. That was then.

Now I hold a different vision in my mind … things are perfect with their imperfections. When I go with the flow and just allow things to unfold I find that the outcome is so much better. Being a former perfectionist (ok still have some of that in me) I do my best to let go of all that.

What has triggered this “discussion” is a conversation I had with a friend the other day when she shared that the “honeymoon” stage of her new relationship is over and she and her partner are seeing things a little differently. When we talk further she told me that she feels that he is holding the relationship to a standard of “perfection”; that they always have to be happy and in a good mood. I looked at her and shared I told the guy I am dating that I will likely disappoint you at sometime and I am not perfect however what makes this relationship so good is that we can talk about everything.

I wouldn’t want a relationship whereby I had to always be happy, on,

People That Inspire…

Posted Friday, April 28th, 2017. Filed Under Voices of wisdom | Leave a Comment

“Great things never come from comfort zones.”

I saw this incredible speaker a few weeks back and I wish I could clone him and what he stands for. He is the CEO of VarageSale, Andrew Sider. He really inspired me for the journey he has taken and more importantly the role of CEO he currently fulfills.

He is a true entrepreneur.

I attended a speaking engagement hosted by Brainstation (check them out) who invited Andrew Sider to speak on the topic of ‘being an entrepreneur’. He spoke for about 1 hour and in that time I scribbled many notes. He took us on a journey of his life, from his younger years when he ran a small business, to leaving a secure job abroad and begin a start-up in California, his successes and failures and how he ultimately ended up as CEO of VarageSale.

He talked about how he went to university with a group of friends and they all vowed that within four years they would hold each other accountable to quit their jobs and begin their own businesses rather than taking the safe road in the working world. Andrew said that he thought that he would just take on a consultancy & investment banking role for a few years and make good money to pay off his debt and then go on his own. This, however, is not what happened. Andrew worked for a few more years and then finally he did leave his secure job to begin a start-up with a family member. In fact, Andrew shared that all but one of the friends took the entrepreneurial route. I was really impressed.

Andrew shared his rollercoaster ride- the failures and successes and how as an entrepreneur you must be careful not to fall in love with your idea/product, rather have checks and balances in place – mentors and guides – who will challenge you to make sure you are making sound business decisions and not throwing good money after bad. He calls this “Is my baby ugly?” I know that every mother thinks their baby is cute when in fact some babies are just not cute. It’s hard to hear but it is the truth. You want to check in and see if your vision is working, if it needs tweaking, abandoning or pivoting.

Getting feedback is critical. Andrew shared the idea of pivoting. I have heard this term before. Awareness, guidance, mentoring, feedback … all of these things help discover if you need to tweak your idea/vision/business to make it more relevant to the needs of your customers and/or market.

One of the most impactful stories he shared was how in one of his ventures he went from very few users to millions. In the same token, when Facebook changed their policy on one of their platform that Andrew’s business was using, they went from 30 million users to 1 million overnight. He shared his experience and the response of the Venture Capitalist world.

He did express that he is not sure that business school offered any more than theoretical knowledge vs hands-on experience, especially for the entrepreneurship stream. I feel education has its place however being an entrepreneur is something that is hard to create. I believe you can foster skills and learn and grow but the innate entrepreneurial “flavour” comes from within. One of the biggest distinctions between a business person and entrepreneur in my opinion is those who work in businesses often tend to focus on problems while the entrepreneur focuses on solutions. I choose the latter.

I want to fast-forward to today where Andrew Sider is CEO of VarageSale. He took a few key people from his former business, BUNK (I believe) and merged with the founder and his team from VarageSale. Like at “marriage” or “partnership” you hope that the two merge well. In this case he said it did and that their core values for corporate culture were similar. When I think of creating corporations for the “new economy” two companies come to mind: Hootsuite and VarageSale. In both cases the companies incorporate a thinking which really does not exist or not for many companies in Corporate Canada. One of the missing components to innovation in Corporate Canada is allowing risk and failure. What I mean by this is companies want a sure thing and are less likely to encourage their people or teams to “take a hypothesis, run with it for a month and come back and see where the challenges, successes, failures or need to tweak come from”. Andrew explained that they do encourage this behaviour. People/teams have one month to check out an idea/hypothesis and then come back and share how this will succeed or not.

When you think about some of the greatest inventions that have come to market, some of these come about by “mistake”.

The other company and CEO that really inspires me is Ryan Holmes from Hootsuite. Ryan is truly an innovator and disruptor. I read his articles and are constantly encouraged that there are CEOs out there that truly understand where we need to take our companies. I love that he stretches his people and their skills sets, understands cross-functioning skill sets and encouraging “coffee dates” and more. This allows for lateral and diagonal movement to different teams & different exposures.

My intention is to work with like-minded people as I create my own online global mobile youth entrepreneur platform; building companies for the new economy based on multiple projects not just in Canada or USA but around the world. The new economy takes into consideration the “we/sharing economy” whereby ideas and projects bring peoples’ skills sets together, mentoring and transference of knowledge, skills and leadership development and most important bridging between the new entrepreneur and Angel and investing world; the investors of today need to understand this new economy and how the entrepreneur of today is not just creating their brand, they are their brand and their passion – the two are intertwined.

It is exciting times. It is not something you can control however the change will come. We can be part of it or stand by the sidelines. I choose to be part of it. I hope you do too.

I want to wish everyone a wonderful weekend. I want to thank the Andrew Sider and Ryan Holmes of the world who are disrupting the status quo.

Enjoy this wonderful time.

All my love,

Sandra

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Assertiveness…

Posted Friday, April 21st, 2017. Filed Under Voices of wisdom | Leave a Comment

Today the Doreen Virtue instagram card reads “Assertiveness”

Being peaceful and loving person doesn’t mean allowing others to take advantage of your niceness. Yet this happens a lot when you fell confused about the definition of being “loving”. There’s confusion that leads gentle people to be “too nice” to those whose intentions are ego-based.

Assertiveness is being lovingly honest. It is speaking sincerely from your heart in a way that honours the other person’s feelings. It releases pent-up anger in constructive ways. If you sense that someone is trying to take advantage of your niceness, the kindest thing you can do is to say NO. After all, saying YES just reinforces that person to continue their ways with you and other nice people. For your own health and theirs, say No to unreasonable requests. Stop trying to rescue people who don’t need or want rescuing, so that your resources can be directed to those who are truly in need.

Here’s a helpful prayer:

Dear G-d, Thank you for guiding my relationships to be healthy, mutually beneficial, and authentic.

To learn more go to Doreen Virtue’s book: “Assertiveness for Earth Angels”.

April Energy: Tips to Thrive in April 2017…

Posted Friday, March 31st, 2017. Filed Under Voices of wisdom | Leave a Comment

I don’t know about the rest of you but the last two weeks has been a real shakedown/shake out of stuff in my life. Somethings have gone away suddenly, some things are being questioned as to how or if I want to proceed, in some instances I have decided who I want to work with and surround myself with and those I don’t, and finally some opportunities are opening up to me for me to consider. I am taking it one day at a time and accepting what is coming my way. Perhaps this article will help prepare you for April. We are about to go into mercury retrograde April 9th however you might feel this energy beforehand- things slowing down, communication issues. computer or appliance issues to name a few. It is a good time to review, revisit, and reevaluate. It is not usually a good time to sign contracts. April seems to be a good time to plant the seeds on what you want to move forward on. That’s what I am focussing on — working to get clarity.

Wishing you all a wonderful weekend and enjoy this article.

All my love,

Sandra

Tips to Thrive in April 2017

Selacia
a message from Selacia
Friday, 31 March, 2017

Right now and leading up to the April 10 Full Moon is a perfect time to set in motion new ideas, plans, and projects. The key to success is focus, presence, and acting on what you know with divine timing.

There is an energy of newness in the air. Projects and perhaps some of your relationships can benefit. Invite a knowing of new approaches to key relationships and creative pursuits. Updating your view of what’s possible can create big shifts – even miracles.

Our world remains chaotic and uncertain, the constant dance of events unfolding even shocking at times. As I’ve written about recently and in my “2017 Predictions,” what we are moving through now is bringing to the surface unprecedented happenings and challenges.

Do not be discouraged. There is plenty of good and abundant opportunities to move through the chaos to discover your best self – and thrive!

The following are some tips for finding your center so you can thrive. Invite your inner wisdom to speak to you as you continue reading.

FIRST, be mindful of challenging energy cycles like the grand cross occurring around the time of the Full Moon. If you are sensitive you may start feeling this days ahead. The key to moving through this is to stay in your heart, avoid reaction, and choose the high road. Not always easy, but do your best. If something triggers you so deeply that you feel stuck, explore akashic records patterns in your DNA.

SECOND, utilize the Mercury Retrograde of April 9 to May 3 to reconfigure things in your life. Inner work is favored and can lead to significant breakthroughs. Dream work is recommended, too, for the dream state can feel deeper and the mysteries you are able to unravel can be profound. Consider a dream journal, noting insights that come to you throughout this cycle.

THIRD, consider reflecting daily about your passions and how you as a soul can express these in more tangible, productive ways. Think big picture and include both everyday tasks and your dream aspirations. The more that your passion is involved in daily living and interactions, the greater the likelihood that you will succeed with big goals. It’s about your energy signature, after all, so keeping that high-frequency is your key to thriving.

FOURTH, aim your sights on April 26 with its New Moon that can provide a marker moment for shifting something significant in your life. Inner work and steps you take beforehand can prepare you for a mega transformation. This may involve an issue you have struggled with this past year, a goal that has been just beyond reach, or even something outside your radar.

FIFTH, give yourself the gift of time and space daily to simply be still and go within. You are a quantum being, operating on many levels beyond your awareness. Your consciousness needs moments of stillness to be able to assimilate your experiences and to be fed by the divine.

Copyright 2017 by Selacia – a globally known writer, DNA intuitive healer, spiritual teacher, and the creator of The Divine Changemakers * All Rights Reserved * http://selacia.com * Feel free to share these articles with your friends and post to your blog or website as long as you include this entire copyright notice, with link back to website, and the full article text.

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A revealing week… my self-worth challenged

Posted Friday, March 24th, 2017. Filed Under Voices of wisdom | Leave a Comment

Wow it has been quite the week.

In the northern hemisphere spring is around the corner. While I look out my window and see the last bits of snow, the sun is shining reminding me that the good weather is around the corner.

I love Spring time as it’s a time for all things to grow and sprout up – the grass, the flowers and even ourselves. The last few months we have experienced some very heavy energetic months. Around the solar eclipse (end of February) and recent full moon (March 12th) I have seen many of my friends, their husbands/partners and children become sick with the flu, pneumonia, bronchitis, and viruses lasting weeks. One of my friends was admitted to the hospital with an obstruction in her bowel; another friend’s husband admitted himself to the hospital to find out he needed a stint as one of his arteries were narrowed.

While these things are concerning I am happy and grateful to say that things are ok with all of them.

Now that Spring is approaching I encourage each one of us, myself included, to clear out the old fears, worries, concerns, garbage – physically, mentally and spiritually. Physically we can choose to eat healthier and remove some of the sugar and salt items (or reduce) from our diet. I am drinking more water and making sure I take all of my vitamins. I may even decide to do a detox. I want to clear out my office of old papers and things that no longer serve me. I think today is a great day to start!

For the mental and spiritual, I am using mindfulness to help me with this. It is a practice that takes time and practice. I also use meditation to help with this clearing.

I wrote my intentions for this year and I begin each morning reading them. I do this to put me in the mindset of where I want to be. I see myself already in a place of peace and joy, abundance in my life and work and so on. I also take 10 minutes to meditate and quiet my mind and see what arises. I allow what comes up to do so and then just observe what feelings come with it. This allows me to start my day with a clear mind and to ground myself.

What can you do this weekend to start to clear out, clean out, and detox from the old garbage you are holding? Look around you, who you are surrounding yourself with? What foods you are eating? What are the thoughts you are carrying and see what is serving you and what is not, then let it go.

To being, take that first step and then another one and then another one.

Looking forward to marching together towards the life that we want.

I want to wish everyone a wonderful weekend.

All my love,

Sandra

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My son is a typical 17 year-old male. He is moody, challenges me and then there is the softer side. I never know what I am going to get. I do know that when we are in the car and his earphones are on it is NOT a good time to talk to him about anything. Whenever I do start on something, to raise something, he just looks at me and says, “I am not listening can’t you see my headphones are on.”

Yes, if we looked back at that time in our life, I am sure that we challenged our parents as well. What I do find different today is the youth make a decision and are very adamant either YES or NO. What I mean by that is that in my teen years I may not have liked something, even challenged it, but when push came to shove I did the “right” thing and/or followed societal norms. Today, I can see more and more with my children and with my friend’s children, that this is not the case. I have found once they make up their mind they cannot be swayed.

This past week, my ex and I had a situation with our son. He decided to drop Chemistry before start of second semester and choose another course. When second semester started he attended his first class and found he did not like the alternative course he selected. He came to us and said that he sat with the guidance person at his school and they came up with a solution: he can drop that course but there are no more choices for courses in the school so they recommended a grade 12U (university) Philosophy course online. He signed up but unfortunately it was done through the continuing education part and not the school and there is a lack of clear direction and guidance. I recognize that this course is online and you have to be self-disciplined, however, without guidance and clear direction most people would not fare well and that included my son.

Our son came to us and said that he wants to drop the course and he’ll get the six required grade 12U courses next year that he can use to apply to post-secondary schools. It turned out he is too late to drop the course so he would have to take an F if he didn’t do the work. In his mind he had already given up and nothing myself, my ex or the guidance teacher would say could convince him otherwise. I believe that his decision to walk away/give up was not because he didn’t like the course rather he was scared and there was a lack of direction; he did not know how to start and the step-by-step to be successful. In his mind he had already failed so why bother.

I had a chance at the teacher-parent interview to meet his History teacher who inspires my son and whom he greatly respects. I told this teacher what was going on and he agreed to help him with the online course by looking at all of his assignments with him. I agreed to help read the material and guide him. When I told my son yet he was still adamant that he was taking an F.

That Monday my son, his guidance teacher from school, my ex and I met to discuss the situation and possible solutions. As I said, my son was adamant about not trying or doing this course. During the meeting the History teacher by chance showed up outside the door and we invited him into the meeting. Within 10 minutes of this man joining the meeting he was able to get my son to change his mind or at least give the course a shot. What changed my son’s mind is when the history teacher presented an exercise to my son to help him make his decision. The teacher asked him, “What is the worse case scenario of doing this course?” My son replied, “I fail”. The teacher replied then you are no further behind as you are already prepared to fail. He then asked him to lay out what are the positives and negatives of taking this online course. If the positives outweigh the negatives then it makes sense to take the course. The positives did outweigh the negatives as he will have his first 12U course in grade 11, his schedule next year can be more flexible, he doesn’t have to put all his eggs in one basked (only getting 6 required 12U courses).

What really convinced my son is the plan of action we put into place. We created a whole “guidance team” to work with my son. Once he ‘felt’ that everything was going to be ok he was more excited about this course. He now has one of the guidance teacher taking over the administration of this course and will help layout what Isaac needs to do and set out a schedule for assignments and tests (a syllabus); his history teacher will help him and proof-read his assignments; another teacher will let him do the course work in her class during her 2nd period and me his mom and his dad have agreed to help with the advanced material that he will be reading and expected to compare/contrast and think at a higher level – to make sure he understands the material for his assignments.

After this whole experience I walked away and thought to myself – why are the kids so quick to jump ship in their work? Why is there so much anxiety, depression and lack of direction for our kids? I realized that there is a lack of guidance and training for our kids once they leave university/college and are thrown into jobs where they are expected to step in and know everything. There is vert little time or effort put into training the youth today. There are many reasons why this happens.

I also realized that like my son, I too need guidance and a team to help bring about some of my great ideas and figure out step-by-step how to achieve this. That is exactly what I am doing starting today. I have a meeting set up to discuss a project: A youth leadership development platform to help me break it down into bite-sized pieces. My best friend said, you don’t need to eat the whole elephant to start – start one piece at a time.

I ask you what is stopping you from achieving what you want? Take this story and learn, as I did, that by surrounding yourself with the “right” people that make you feel safe and inspired to succeed, will make the difference between success and failure. You might even fail with your concept and plan however those people can help tweak it if need be.

I wanted to share this story and hope you gained something from it as I did.

I also want to wish you a wonderful weekend.

All my love,

Sandra

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There is a saying, “To each their own”. I guess I was so taken aback by a recent article that I wanted to share it. I know that we are all entitled to our own opinions and while I will share mine, I respect that you may or may not agree with what I am about to write.

I do, however, pose a question and that is what kind of world do we want to exist in as human beings? I am not sure if what is happening is art imitating life or the other way around. Let me get to the article which really took me aback. It is entitled, Chinese kids given DNA talent testing, and appeared in the National Post this past week.

The article, written by Neil Connor, shares how thousands of young children and babies in China are undergoing genetic testing in an attempt to detect what talents they will develop later in life. Connor states that this trend is being pushed along by what’s referred to as “Tiger Mothers”. The result is the emergence of and growing number of “health institutes” that claim to predict the life prospects of children as young as ONE. These companies charge the equivalent of hundreds of dollars to preform the tests, which involve taking saliva swabs that are sent for lab testing. Just two short weeks later you get your results which tell the parent(s) whether their child is gifted in such areas as dancing, mathematics or painting. Parents are also given a profile of their child’s general level of intelligence, emotional understanding and concentration, and are told whether they will be introverted or extroverted.

In the article the Connor states experts are skeptical of the scientific evidence to support such techniques, and ethical concerns have been raised. He ends the article quoting Mike McNamee, a professor of applied ethics at Swansea University, who says talent spotting was a “gross oversimplification and overblown belief in the power of genetic technology. If parens want to know if their kids is going to grow up to be a great sprinter, go and watch them.”

This article really upset me. I believe we are children of God and that our life is not about the destination rather the journey and in that journey we, as humans, have ups and downs, successes and failures, learning, growing, and experimenting. I have seen children be so engrossed in a sport or activity and then wake up one day and decide I don’t want to do this anymore. By allowing a test to determine our outcome is no better than saying we are robots ourselves. We assume that we are preprogrammed for a destiny. While I do believe that we can be drawn to a passion, as I said, passions can change. There are so many points in our life in which we have choices and depending on our choice can take us down different paths. To me this is a frightening direction we are going in as humans.

What happened to wonderment and just being in the moment; letting kids be kids. We are at our most creative time when we are kids. This is when our imagination is heightened. As children get older it is often found that their creativity is less, even to the point of being stifled. I love the work by Sir Ken Robinson who says that schools kill creativity.

I say …. Let children be children. They should be able to explore many things in their life. I feel that pushing kids in a certain direction might certainly backfire, maybe not today but we will see the impact and outcome and at that point it may be too late.

It is a long weekend, Family Day, where I live and I plan on enjoying this beautiful weather.

I hope that this blog and the article I wrote about gives you some food for thought.

I want to wish you all a wonderful weekend.

All my love,

Sandra

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