Confidence and mindset is crucial to one’s success..

Posted Friday, February 27th, 2015. Filed Under Voices of wisdom

It is interesting how when I look back at points in my life and see my greatest successes it is tied into my level of confidence. The latter half of 2103 and a fair bit of 2014 saw my confidence challenged. I spent much of 2014 building up my confidence again. Today, I feel that I am ready to return to my work and know who I am and what I have to offer.

What has helped me the most was working on my mindset. Our minds can wreak havoc on our confidence. It does come down to what you believe about yourself. I did turn to people for help. I just sat with a friend of mine and he has been going through a tough time. I have not known him long however in the little time I have spent with him I can relate to what he is going through. It is hard to see those you care about have their confidence eroded.

The irony of this all is that we are in control of our thoughts, how we think about ourselves and then how we respond to others. I can assure most of you, at some point in your life you will be challenged. It is not fun.

What I can also tell you is that you can change the outcome at any time. I have spent the last 10 months changing my mindset; I talk to myself. I am my own cheerleader and while each day is like a mental marathon I approach it that I will cross the finish line with success. And while there is no finish line per se, I do know that embracing my successes, going out to the world and sharing my work to bring change, feeling good and confident about what I do and believing there are others out there that align with my work… I am able to run this marathon with more ease. Practising does make perfect.

I was watching the show Girlfriend’s Guide to Divorce and on the show Abby goes in to pitch her new book idea and she just launches in boldly with her idea. Those in the boardroom were not sure if she was losing it or what. She was trying to say, this is me and I want to write about what is important to me. She says her life is not perfect, but whose is. She went for it knowing she had nothing to lose.

That is how I approach things now. I tell myself before I am about to do something that scares me, “Go big or go home.” These words remind me that I have nothing to lose by doing so. The worst someone will say to me is NO.

I wanted to share this blog because there are others out there that may be questioning themselves. It is more common than you know and it’s ok. For the women re-entering the workforce and up against younger applicants I want you to know that staying home to raise your children is an incredible thing. I say that probably more for me for I can now sit in front of someone or through a call and tell them, I CHOSE to stay home and raise my children as it was very important to me. I would not change it for the world. As the CEO of my home I ran the budget, volunteered and was part of teams, organized events, ran events, wrote a book, started three websites and so much more. I am proud of my accomplishments.

I can see my confidence returning and it feels so good. I am returning to my corporate culture assessment work assisting companies in defining their corporate culture by identifying their core values and behaviours and carrying this through the mission, vision, best practices, hiring, compensation, rewards and recognition, policies and procedures.

I hope all of you had a great weekend. For those struggling a bit with confidence be careful of the words you say to yourself. Surround yourself with positive people. Treat yourself as if you are your best friend because you are.

Wishing everyone the best.

All my love,


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