Letting go of expectations for 2013

Posted Friday, January 4th, 2013. Filed Under Voices of wisdom

What I am referring to is the expectation we have on the outcome of things, people and situations. I am not referring to your intentions or goals. Set your intentions and goals and each day take a baby step that will bring you closer to what you will like in your life: more health, more peace, happiness, joy, whatever.

I talk about letting go of expectations and for this year I am making it a big part of my intentions. In doing so things will unfold as they are meant to. It also allows me to let go of disappointment, frustration and all those negative associations that come with EXPECTING.

I have been thrown into the thick of this with my son’s up coming bar mitzvah. This is a celebration of going from boy to manhood in the Jewish Religion. Of course my son is not an adult however he is entering the tween, teenage years which lead to becoming an adult.

When you have a special occasion you have ideas, plans and yes, even expectations of the outcome. This includes from the detail and planning of the actual bar mitzvah, to the people you invite and your expectation on your guests, to the people you hire to be part of that day. I set the bar high because I know what I give of myself. Planning this has been interesting because I am planning it with my ex-husband. There have been tough moments, there have been easier moments. I see that all the work I am doing is not necessarily being recognized because a lot of it is behind the scenes – the grunt work.

Expectations! Because of my expectations I have been disappointed. The ironic thing is that I am expecting behaviour from certain people that has never been exhibited, so why will it now? I just need to let this go. Does it matter if people know how much time and effort I put into my son’s bar mitzvah? This includes my best friend who has put in so much time as well. What matters is the day of and the flow.

There are a few people that have disappointed me because I expected different choices. I mean, I wouldn’t have made “that” choice. So what??? What I will tell you is the more I can step away from expectation, the more I can be free from disappointment and move toward joy. This is where I will be on that day. I cannot control peoples’ choices, only my own. Saying that, I can tell you that in 2013 I will do what is the best for me. I don’t mean from a selfish, ego place. What I mean is that if I choose to do something that brings me closer to my work, dreams and passion then I will make that choice.

For too long I have lived my life by “doing the right thing”. No more. I can honestly say that it feels good and freeing. I told my children that after the bar mitzvah it is all about me and my work. This will include everyone: my family, my ex, and friends.

I talked about doing things differently. I want to include “letting go” as doing something differently. I know I am not alone when I hold expectations. Let it go. Be true to you in a loving and compassionate way.

I want to wish everyone a wonderful weekend. It’s snowy and blowy and I plan on having a great day of skiing on Sunday.

All my love,


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2 Responses to “Letting go of expectations for 2013”

  1. spiritual cinema circle on January 27th, 2013 3:58 pm

    There’s a quote that goes: “Let go. Let God.” Do what you have to do, and then let God take over. Have faith that He knows what’s best.

  2. Sandra on January 31st, 2013 12:35 pm

    I love this comment. In fact, there is a song by Olivia Newton called, Let go, let God. My intention is to fulful this for 2013 and onward. It is a great motto to live by.



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