My Epiphany About Relationships

Posted Thursday, October 29th, 2009. Filed Under Voices of wisdom

IN MY SEARCH FOR …
I was preparing for my workshop last night and I wanted to find a definition for Surrender. I picked up the book, Conversations With God, by Neale Donald Walsh and I ended up turning to the pages about relationships.

On this page, the question to G-d is Why Are Relationships So Hard?

G-d answers him and says that our relationships fail because we view relationships by what we can get out of them — how is he treating me, how is he talking to me, is he paying attention to me, is he doing what I want him to do… and so on. G-d says that our relationships are NOT ABOUT what we get out of them RATHER, RELATIONSHIPS ARE ABOUT WHAT WE PUT INTO THEM!

I read this over two or three times until it really sunk in.

I am not even talking about the What’s in it for me people… that’s pretty obvious that it is all about them and being a taker.

I am talking the every day good person who expects from her relationships: spousal, financial, wellness, and so on.

MY EPIPHANY MOMENT
Wow, this hit me like a ton of bricks for two nights ago I had an incident with my older son and I realized (throught the help of my angel friend, Mary Montanari) that I was being judgmental and showing lack of compassion. It upset me, I called and apologized and told him I am sorry. That person is not who I am — I am an uncoditionally loving person — this act was not what I am about. I let it go.
This incident in combination with my awareness about relationships reminded me that I have been giving in some senses however not without expectations at times. And furthermore, I have been looking at my work, and friendships, and especially the men I have dated is why am I in this relationship – what can I learn.

IS THAT NOT THE SAME THING AS: WHAT CAN I GET OUT OF THIS??

Even though my intention has been to be of service I have been looking at it from the “wrong” side of the viewing glass.

This HUGE paradigm shift really made me think about my relationships, in particular my work and my dating experiences.

I KNOW THAT I WANT TO BE OF SERVICE IN MY EMPOWERMENT WORK AND THEREFORE I WILL PUT ALL OF MY LOVE AND HEART ENERGY INTO WHAT I CAN GIVE, LET GO OF ALL EXPECTATIONS AND THE UNIVERSE WILL PROVIDE.

I did last night. My workshop was full of unconditional love and compassion and I know the others felt it as well.

Learn to give from your heart with no expectations. It’s baby steps.

All my love,

Sandra




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