I was watching the Kelly show and she had on as her guest Julian Edelman, the New England Patriot wide receiver that had the outstanding catch that helped turn around a deficit and be part of what led the Patriot’s to their fifth win. I have to admit I was going for Atlanta and when half time came it seemed that Atlanta was heading towards their first Super Bowl win.

During the show Kelly asked Edelman what the coach said to the players during half-time break. Like most, myself included, we assumed that the coach would get those guys into a room and just blast them. He said that the coach turned to the guys and said, “You are a team and we work together. We need to take one play at a time when we go back out there if we want to win.” And sure enough that is exactly what they did. They drove the numbers up to the point that they tied the game. As soon as they tied the game I knew New England Patriots were going to win.

This is not the first time I have heard a coach talk take to his players like this. I remember a few years ago sitting in a career development conference and they brought in a former coach of the Montreal Canadians who led the team to a come back win for the Stanley cup when they were down 4 games to 1. Like the Patriot’s coach he told the players we play one game at a time. And sure enough they won to the point they won the Stanley Cup.

Why do I bring this up? I am constantly reminded how reaching your goals and “winning” (whatever that means to you) is not just about going after the big picture, rather, breaking it down into actionable soundbites. I have to remind myself of this because I am hard on myself. Therefore, in order to reach my larger vision, which is large, I need to break it down into sections/steps and just put all my effort into that one section/step. I talk about baby steps all the time. I want to couple that with patience. These are two things I am working at getting better at. For me, I sometimes get caught up in the larger picture/vision and want people to know … what I am doing is not just this part but there is more to it. That is more about my ego than achieving my goal/vision.

I also need to remind myself that I’m not doing this alone. I am part of a tribe/community. Knowing this is comforting.

When I say this I may not formally be part of anything, rather I see myself as part of a youth movement in which we all want to see the same thing: a better world for our millennial youth and the ones to follow. What I have discovered in the youth brainstorm sessions we have held is that the youth also want this. The older millennials are really concerend about what kind of world their younger counter parts will inherit.

My message today is: be in the moment and focus everything you have in that moment. Our success will come as a compound effect of the smaller successes. If you set a New Years goal which you have already broken try it this way. Rather than looking to quit smoking altogether, try one less cigarette a day. If you want to lose 20 pounds, focus on one day at a time and for that day drink a little bit more water, get a little bit more sleep, tell yourself one positive thing or one thing you are grateful for, exercise a little bit more than you did the day before, eat one more healthy thing in your diet. At the end of the day, congratulate yourself on a great day. If you have a bad day – ate a lot of junk, didn’t exercise – who cares that one day is gone and tomorrow you have another day to enjoy. It always helps to find your support group or community: for example people who are health conscious or want to become healthier.

I want to leave you for this weekend saying we get to define what it means to be a winner and what reaching our goals looks like – don’t ever let anyone take that away from you. Dream big and just break it down into bite sizes.

I want to wish you a great weekend.

All my love,


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