To be or Not to be, that is the choice: LIFE IS ABOUT CHOICES

Posted Thursday, January 22nd, 2009. Filed Under Voices of wisdom

We have just come out of 2008 – a time for much change and clearing of old ways, habits and beliefs for many and for some it still continues. January tends to be a time for making resolutions: I want to lose weight, change jobs, find a partner, end a relationship and the list goes on. It is known that within a few months most people have let their resolutions slide and go back to their old way of being and then the process begins all over again.

I want to tell you that it does not have to be this way – life is about choices and decisions. Some people feel that they do not have a choice and that they are stuck in the lot that has been given to them. I can tell you that this is not true and that within each of us is the free will to change.

Within choices there are at least three choices you can make. First is to choose to do nothing. The person who does this can accept their life and circumstances for where they are at and be grateful. I have a friend who when she knew the path I was taking about inspiring and empowering women to make changes in their life to become their true selves looked at me and said that she was not ready to reflect from within. I told her that is ok as no one is here to judge her or make her do otherwise. I did feel it was necessary for me to point out that by choosing to do nothing means that her circumstances will likely stay the same. I also encouraged her to be grateful for where she is in her life and that she has a roof over her head, food on her table, two beautiful children, and a husband who loves her. When you look at life this way – it’s pretty good.

There is another choice and that is to take one area or thing in your life and decide to make a change. I call this the baby steps to change from within that over time will ultimately lead to larger changes in your life. With my clients who I do body energy work with at the end of a session I will often suggest one thing that they can choose to do differently. For one I suggested just smiling at five random people on the street and making a difference in their day. I asked them to see how this felt for them, giving the gift of love from a distance. For another client I suggested that he set boundaries for those in his life. This can be simply saying “no” when someone asks you to do something that you do not really want to do or do not have time for. For a third client I suggested that she write in a gratitude journal and list 5 things each day that she was grateful for and made her feel good. It can be as simple as seeing a beautiful flower, it may be the laughter of your grandchild, or it may be looking in the mirror and saying the words, “I love you” to yourself and really meaning it. I know that choosing to change from within can be difficult and I want you to know there is no right or wrong, or good and bad. I ask that you suspend all judgment and just let it be. Learn to be in that “moment” of total “beingness” even if it is for only a few seconds. The small shifts that will happen from within will become the norm and everyday practice and from this you can choose another area that you want to tackle.

The third choice, and there are more, however this one I call the one in which you recognize that you are not happy in your life and you know you want to make changes from within. This is where I have been for a number of years. I wanted to strip away the layers and rid myself of the habits, core beliefs and all that was not serving me and allowing me to be my true self. This is not the easiest path as it takes courage and support to look in a mirror, see your reflection and take accountability and responsibility for the part you played in all of this, and then begin the process of acceptance, letting go/releasing, forgiveness, loving and honouring yourself, healing, breaking cycles and so much more. I equate this path to the layers of an onion and that the awareness comes in layers and some layers fall off quickly and you move through this part rather easily and other layers may take months or years depending on your level of awareness. For some the lesson is learnt the first time and for others they may have to go through the learning lesson over and over again until they wake up and say – I GET IT. The greatest awareness I have come to is knowing that I am a great being of light as we all are and that my enlightenment is the moment I chose to be. I know that we are all connected and that through my awareness I have not only transformed my life from within and all my relationships, however, I recognize that I have touched so many lives and made a difference just by being true to myself and honouring who I am.

I ask that you make one choice. Whatever it is please be grateful for where you are at and know that our purpose on this planet is remembering who we are: amazing beings of light who are all meant to shine. This can mean whatever for you. My girlfriends have been my strength, my light and my support in this process. Please find a support group who will help you in your journey of awareness. They may be the one(s) that hold the light at the end of the tunnel when all you see is darkness. I am excited to say the site can be “one of your girlfriends”. You will be hearing from my own life experiences and awareness and more importantly you will be hearing from women, like yourself, from all over the world sharing their insights, experiences and awareness. Let us help you through your journey.

All my love,



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