When is it time to “let go”?

Posted Thursday, September 17th, 2009. Filed Under Voices of youth

HELICOPTER PARENT
I am not sure if you have heard of the term “helicopter parent” or not however this is a term that is being used more often today.  It’s a parent who “hovers” over their child/children to the point, I believe enabling and disabling them.

As parents we want to protect you, our child/children, to make sure that nothing happens to you. We want you to be safe. What we fail to recognize is that a child needs that time to explore, to falldown, to get up, to fail, and to succeed, in order to learn. Of course I will not let my 7 year old roam the streets however I am allowing him to walk home from school with his older brother, who is nearly 10 years old. It is only about  20 homes in from the school. I do sort of walk up to meet them however I want them to feel a sense of independence as well as repsonsibility.

The other key point to note is that our children have their own learning and journey and will follow their own path. We have NO CONTROL over this. If we deny you, our child/children, the right to learn then your lessons will come later in life.

I am happy that my children are going through stuff now as this learning will only make them stronger when they get to their teenage years (I know, or so I think!!).

A MOTHER ALLOWS HER SOME TO TAKE THE SUBWAY IN NEW YORK CITY BY HIMSELF AT AGE 9… SHE HAS BEEN DECLARED “AMERICA’S WORST MOM”.

TAKE A LOOK… This woman, Author, Lenore Skenazy, has a website you may want to check out: www.freerangekids.wordpress.com.

Also, you may want to suggest to your parents to read her book, Free-Range Kida: Giving our Children the Freedom We Had Without Going Nuts With Worry. As I have not read this book I am only suggesting it as a read. You may agree or disagree with what she has to say. However, it opens up different avenues to consider and see how it fits in your life and with your family.

All my best,

Sandra




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