When you let all expectations go….

Posted Thursday, March 15th, 2012. Filed Under Voices of wisdom

I am in Florida with my two boys and we are visiting my parents for 10 days. When this first came up and the tickets were bought I spent a lot of time dreading this trip and wondering how it would turn out. Right then and there I needed to stop myself from the “would haves”. As the date of departure came closer I made a decision that I was going to let all expectations go and just go down and enjoy myself with my boys, with my parents and all of us together.

We are nearing the end of this trip and I have to say that this past 10 days have been great. I went with the flow, allowed my boys to just hang and we did a lot of fun things. I enjoyed the time I spent with my boys and parents. And I know that they enjoyed having us. Now please do not get me wrong … I made sure that my mom was able to do her thing and my dad needed to work a couple of days. This didn’t stop us from doing what we wanted to do. We had our own car to come and go as we pleased. My father took my older son to a hockey game (the Maple Leafs lost!!) and a baseball game and that was great for the two of them to bond. My younger son bonded with my parents in his own way. They got to experience my boys for 10 days and I really believe that it is an experience that will sit with them a long time — especially the non-stop talking that my boys did. I think sometimes they gave my dad a headache but he didn’t yell or complain.

As for me, it was really nice to spend time with my parents. I know who they are and this allowed me to accept situations for what they were. They were very generous as always and took care of us. For this I am grateful especially since I went down with a budget in mind. The fact that the dishwasher was broken didn’t bother me, it gave me time to spend with my mother. One of the best moments was learning to bake one of my mother’s specialities .. ragalech. I called my boyfriend and best friend to tell them of how well I did. For this baking “class” we were joined by my mother’s cousin who I really like and that was a lot of fun. I learned from both of these women … they are both incredible bakers.

I hope that this trip shifts the energy around our relationship. In the last years there have been some tough moments. That was an old story. The new story is much different. I know my parents love me and my children and are really happy that I have met someone so special. I look forward to our time together when we return home. Yes, somethings will go back to “normal” however it is my choice how I see this relationship from today, forward.

For those that struggle with acceptance and letting go, take a moment and ask yourself if you have ulterior motives or are you expecting a certain outcome from a situation or person? If so, please let them go. You can visualize an upcoming event or evening with a certain person and see yourself enjoying your time together. Be in the moment. Be honest and in truth. Learn to accept people for who they are. Sometimes people do not know better and you can show them.

I want to wish everyone a wonderful weekend.

All my love,


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