What’s in a word?

Posted Friday, October 21st, 2016. Filed Under Voices of wisdom

Many years ago I attended a workshop (actually I did it 4 different times) and you are put into smaller groups. One of the last exercises that we did was one where each person goes into the centre and the rest of the group creates a circle. All of this is done silently. For about couple of minutes (seems much longer) each group member observes you and looks at you and at the end you go around the circle and each one gives a word that they think describes you.

The first time I did this exercise 17 years ago the words came back “strong”, “successful” — words that I liked. What is interesting as I did this workshop more than once (not a slow learner it’s a human development workshop) as I went along in my journey, the words changed. In my late 20s and early 30s I took on a lot of male energy – wore power suits and felt that for me to be successful and accomplished I need to succeed on my own, be firm, and so forth. What I have learned is the stronger I became from within and the more authentic what really made me strong was my ability to say “no” when I needed, ask for help when I needed and stay true to my core values.

Last night I was out with someone I had never met before and we were talking about this exercise and I turned to him and said the word that comes to mind when I look at you and speak to you is “kindness”. He is a man that is hard on himself and gives to everyone first. I said that to truly love yourself you need to learn to put yourself first and be kinder to yourself.

He looked at me and said the word that I believe describes you is “passionate”. It is true I am very passionate about many things – my kids, family, friends, home, work, health, and being authentic. I have learned and grown so much in the last 17 years. I find my passion can scare some people especially in the workplace as I want to bring changes that are much talked about and much needed.

I looked up the name Sandra to see what it means. In Greek it stems from the male version of Alexander. Here is another definition:

A strong name for a strong woman
A Sandra, especially one born under the star (sun) sign of Aries tends to be intelligent, witty, extremely open, honest & passionate and will do whatever it takes to uphold her morals. While these are extremely admirable traits, they also mean that they should never be crossed. Hope you are paying attention, you have been warned!!
On the flipside, if you do the right thing (and why wouldn’t you?) a Sandra will go out of her way to make your life beautiful.
While fiercely independent, a Sandra has both a strong sense of community and family and will do whatever it takes (regardless of personal cost) to defend and protect those that she cares about.
Do yourself a favour – find a Sandra; stocks are limited and they are (rightly so) in high demand.
Need a friend?
Look no further than Sandra

I am a cancer sign however this describes me!

Over the weekend take some time to observe those you love and care about, including yourself. You can ask them what is one word you would use to describe me. Ask for honesty (you can’t get mad!). It will be a telling exercise. You may be very surprised to learn that the word you hold and the words that your loved ones, friends, and/or colleagues hold for you is much different. It may make you smile or it may be a message that you may want to evaluate your behaviour, thoughts, words, and so on. When I heard so many people say I am strong I had to step back. I think it’s a good word however I know that I was more in my male energy and I wanted to transform that to be more goddess like – come from strength in a more feminine manner and less aggressive.

It’s a work in progress however I feel I am moving in that direction.

This is something a little different today. Have fun with this and I want to wish you a wonderful weekend.

All my love,


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